De-Stagnation of your Life

by Therese Miu on 07/03/10 at 11:42 pm

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What certain patterns are you attaching yourself to?

When I was in NYC, I went over my 2010 goals and 2 questions that I pondered for a moment that hit me in my gut were:

1.) What areas need development

2.) What do people criticize me most often?

I am okay with criticism. So as I pondered on these 2 questions, I knew right away what the answers were and somehow I felt great in the recognition and awareness. I know bad habits are hard to break but owning the responsibility and taking crucial steps for massive improvement felt phenomenal for me. So the pattern I was continually attaching myself that I was ready to get rid of this year and eliminate as a habit altogether was being messy.

There I said it!!!!!

I made a simple video about getting rid of this habit:

I knew I had to follow strategic plans for improvement. I heard it takes 21 days to break or make a habit. So these are the steps I’m going to take in order to allow improvement to really sink in and be part of my schedule.

Here are ways I implemented with this goal:

Got rid of every clutter especially paperwork I have had for years that I was not using
Shred unnecessary paperwork
Hire an assistant (per week or month basis)
Going over every paperwork once a week
Block out certain time and ask myself: Do I need this paperwork this year 2010? Is it crucial that I have this paperwork? If not, then I’m not going to box it or get rid of it altogether.

Do you agree with me?

We all carry a ‘baggage’ in our life:

Echoes of the past
Toxic thinking
Dispute with someone
Negative emotions
Regret, pain, and hurt that stays inside our hearts
Clutter
Outdated thinking

And whether we are conscious of it or not, these emotions block our energy flow.

Every area of our life is interconnected.

I felt that in order for me to feel the harmonious flow and balance the energy of my life. I needed to get rid of unnecessary clutter that was filling up my space. I agree 100% with Debbie Pierce blogpost called “Eliminate Energy Drainers to achieve instantaneous Manifestation of your desires, “I encourage you to take a good look at your life; physically, emotionally, mentally, and in your relationships. Do you have something that is not aligned with your higher aspirations? If so, let it go.”

Once you are willing to “let go” of old baggage, YOU will CONNECT with your vibrant, energetic, and empower self.

REMEMBER

When you clear one area of your life, improving one will inevitably strengthen them all.

How about you, what areas are you constantly working on that’s blocking your energy flow?

Where do you feel the most stagnant?

Thank You all for reading this blogppost. Please don’t be afraid to share with me what areas need development for you? What do people criticize you most often?

I thank you and I embrace you for who you are always…..

Please don’t forget to share this blogpost with your family or friends or Facebook or Twitter or any other social networks you hang out in….

BIG THANKS and *HUGS* to Alfonso Madrid for helping me edit my video. All I have to say is “WOW” Thanks for your genius

Love You All,

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Linda @ Self Help Motivation

Excellent post, Therese! I agree with your point on decluttering. I think that if a person can clean out all items that one sees as no longer fit in his closet, then why not do the same with his beliefs, concepts, and self image? One's beliefs, concepts, and self-image served to protect a person from emotional danger. However, I also think that it's necessary to get rid of beliefs, etc. that no longer fit one's personality. This would allow a person to attract other beliefs and wisdom that will better help him express who he is. In addition, this allows for creativity in choosing how one might express his true self in the future.
.-= Linda @ Self Help Motivation´s last blog ..Changing your Vocabulary to Increase Your Self-Help Motivation =-.
Satya

hi Therese -- beautiful video! It was wonderful to hear you being so honest and open.

It's so wonderful to have clarity and let go of clutter in life and in the mind -- it's the most important foundation to have a clear and strong path to accomplishing your goals, and allowing the flow of more good things to come in...

- Cheers :)
.-= Satya´s last blog ..Bottomline Proof: Twitter followers convert to business leads =-.
Joann Muana

Hi Therese!

Thank you for sharing such a wonderful blog. Lately I have been dealing with some major stagnation in my life, especially in regards to organizing and continued emotional development. I've been really trying to motivate myself lately to do this, but I'm realizing that I keep on making silly excuses. I have to say, this blog post has really INSPIRED me!! Thank you for being genuine and reminding me that I'm not the only one that struggles with this, and really, there is no better time than NOW to de-stagnate your life. Again, thank you for sharing and I appreciate you!

Joann
Evan

Hi Therese!! My lady friend cleans up my clutter. HA!
Therese Miu

Evan, Your so funny!!! :) Hope all is well with you !~! Jeff & I planning a NYC trip soon maybe May. You should hang out with us ;)
Thérèse Cator

Thank you so much for this post! I am so INSPIRED and FIRED UP
to get my hands dirty and organize, declutter and create space for
wonderful new things. I always manifest awesome stuff when I do this. Thanks for lighting the fire under me!
xo,
T
.-= Thérèse Cator´s last blog ..Why Every Creative Should Use Twitter (Part 1) =-.
Therese Miu

Hi Lovely Ms. Thérèse Cator, First of all you are always fired up! hehe ;) Glad the post help. Let me know what new stuff you will manifest. My twin sister gave me a white board. I put it in my patio to write all my year goals and achievements. I totally love it! ;) I can't wait to spend under the sun with you and mastermind soon. I love you!
Rose Goddess

Awesome post Therese! I agree 100%!! Thanks for mentioning me on your blog too... I am really honored. My next big area of de-cluttering is all my pictures and genealogy papers. I have so many and I choose to get them together in a beautiful and organized format.... wish me luck;)

p.s. I love your first outside video!
.-= Rose Goddess´s last blog ..Symbol of our Times: My Ode to Avatar =-.
Therese Miu

Dear Debbie, Of course I would mention you. I think you really inspired me with yours. I will wish you luck for sure with your pictures and genealogy papers sweetie. Thanks for stopping by and giving me support. Love ya ;)
Sue Vittner

Love the post on de-stagnating your life. Thanks for sharing this and for giving each of us the opportunity to look at what's going on in our lives that's keeping us stuck. I'm currently doing a detox and it's interesting how much clutter we gather in our bodies as well. That's what's so fun about spring cleaning and the freshness that flushing things out brings.

Thanks Therese!
.-= Sue Vittner´s last blog ..Master Cleanse – Day Two =-.
Therese Miu

Dearest Sue, I agree with you 100% that we carry so much clutter within our bodies as well. So glad you have taken steps to clear that physically. Let me know how the process was like for you. I am so glad to be working closely with you. Thanks for bringing extra energy my way everytime.
Can't wait to catch up on thursday =)
Mars Dorian

Hey Therese,

My way of getting rid of clutter is using your focus like a laser.
Clutter is just illusion of the mind; you might as well ignore it.

I listen only to the voice within me - whatever feels good inside is the right thing for me to do. I won't even let clutter have a second of chance to invade my inner kingdom :)
.-= Mars Dorian´s last blog ..Whatever you think, think the opposite =-.
Therese Miu

Hi Mars, Glad to have you here. And wow! what an interesting philosophy you have there. I still think that outer order contributes to inner calm. So not sure if I can laser focus as much and ignore the clutter at the same time. If i do it will start with my son's toys. He loves putting all his toys everywhere and hates cleaning up :)
Thanks for visiting ;)
Baker

Hey Therese!

I would say that the main clutter would be in my closet in my aprtment at the moment! Wow. I have such a messy closet, that needs some major folding. Thanks for this post as a great reminder to clean that organize my clothes. You make some excellent points here, congratulations on the new place as well! You are an awesome person.
Therese Miu

Hi Baker, Good to see you here as always. I think closets, under the bed, garage is always full of clutter. There was a study that was made that the minute you file something away you never take out and read again. It was like 99% of the time. I thought that was insane but true in so many ways. I think the process of de-cluttering is definitely a journey. I started with paperwork and kitchen. Now on to bedroom stuff. Anyway I think your awesome too. I'll be visiting your blog soon my friend. Thanks for being YOU!
mariz brown

I am so PROUD of you for recognizing and addressing this part of your life. Our physical environment reflects our inner world. You'll come to realize that Simple organization will bring inner peace.
Great job, keep it up. The more you focus on yourself and personal development the better you will be and happier.
Therese Miu

Mariz,
Hi hon, Yeah it felt very POWERFUL!!! I'm not going to say that everything is perfect but I will say that everything is in it's designated place. I also have put away business stuff that I have not been using. It feels overwhelming just thinking it's just 3 of us in this home. Anyway, Thanks sis! :) I love the motivation and definitely look up to you for your organization and systems you have in place for your home and family life. I am reminded that "Your life is the series of moments that is steaming through your consciousness right now, and how you use those moments and what you fill them with is what truly matters, not what you fill your home with. At the end of this short journey, you’ll look back and remember your experiences, the people you loved and who loved you back, the things you did and didn’t do. Not the stuff you had."
Love ya and Thanks for stopping by ;)
Joselyn

Hi Therese,

Love the post. I woke up to clutter when I read a book titled "Coach Yourself to Success" by Talane Miedaner. I had no idea of clutter or that a word for it existed.

The hardest thing for me was paper as well. I had college notes and Mickey Mouse stationary from when I was in elementary school. It wasn't living in the present. As if I would go back to childhood need the papers for something one day.

Now I ask myself, when will you need this if not now?

On that note, I'm going into my closet, there is always room to move more stuff out.

Thanks for sharing.

Joselyn
Therese Miu

Hi Jocelyn, Yes I still had paperwork from College believe or not some diaries and journals I was holding on to. And as much as I enjoy seeing my growth and evolution of life. I really did not to be reminded who I had aminosity with back when I was in my 20's. It was just too much for me.

So everything I do have currently now is what I need this year for 2010. If it's going to be next year or 5 years from now (like taxes, business, or my son paperwork etc.) it's on a box in the garage. So yes asking yourself, "Now I ask myself, when will you need this if not now?" is such a brilliant idea. My friend just reminded me that we really do add by subtracting and that's a philosophy I'll live ;)
Thank You for your visit. I am looking forward to get to know you better.

Love,
Therese Miu
Stacy Pavey

Good Morning Therese....

This is great, I know we have talked about this subject before, I am really not "messy" at all, everything has it's place, and gets put away pretty quick. As far as papers, and paperwork go what I do is, if I don't have time to go through it at the time I put them in a tote....they stay there until I can decide if I need them, need to make calls on them, or can toss them, the nice thing is they are not all over my house or office......Where I struggle is my husband IS messy, it drives me absolutely crazy but I have to find a better way to live with that than always being upset about coming home to a mess when he has been home all day...Does that make sense

Love ya,
Stacy
Therese Miu

Hi Stacy, I know we had this conversation before. I think my issue is that your partner is always a reflection of you. And Jeff & I are both "messy" we are slowly bringing solution to this problem. And I think being completely "aware" of your weakness is GREAT. So we decided to delegate some areas in our home life that's not necessarily our strength.

I'm sure your husband drives you crazy.

It also helps now that our place is a bit smaller than before so maintaining it is not going to be a hard task for us. Anyway it continues to be a pattern that I'm ready to detach from and come to a place of Zen.
Thanks for being here. I miss seeing you and hope we can get together soon.
Thanks Stacy! :)
Damayanthi

Hi Therese,

This is a timely post for me. I have been collecting so much physical and emotional "stuff" over the years. I have let go of some of them, but I know I have to keep a check on that.

Thanks for the reminder.

Damayanthi
.-= Damayanthi´s last blog ..YOU Love Yourself? – For What? =-.
Therese Miu

Dearest Damayanthi,

Hi Sweetie I got this info from: http://zenhabits.net/2009/07/love-life-not-stuff/
"Disconnect your attachment to stuff. Sometimes I find myself reluctant to give something up, even if I don’t really use it. And that’s when I ask myself, “Why?” What is holding me back from getting rid of this possession? Sometimes, the item has an emotional connection, but then I realize that it’s just an object, it’s not the emotion or the actual source of the emotion. Then I’ll take a picture of the item, upload it to my computer, and get rid of the object. I feel liberated, because I’ve broken an attachment to a physical object (but saved the memory). If you are attached to an object, figure out why — it’s not healthy in the long run."

I hope you find it helpful sweetie.
Thanks for stopping by ;)
Eiji Morishita

Great post Therese!

You truly add by subtracting. Letting go of what's not working is the a powerful Business Consulting strategy.

Being aware of 1) What's working? 2) What's not working? 3) What am I missing?

It's not about adding things that may clutter your life but instead bring out more from within of the masterpiece you are.

Thank you for shining your light!

Eiji
.-= Eiji Morishita´s last blog ..How to Experience Abundance Anytime Anywhere =-.
Therese Miu

Hi Eiji, I love how you start the sentence by "you can truly add by subtracting" been thinking about those words over the years. Not just in living de-clutter space but overall the "love of stuff". I started with not eating meat. And then with overall "stuff" around the house we don't even use. And then last year we got rid of our cable T.V. we don't even watch T.V. in our home. The most wonderful part was when you subtract most areas of your life it FREES you up. There's actually more time in your day when you are focused on things that are MOST IMPORTANT to you.

It just felt GREAT to subtract and really live life in complete serenity & zen. Once you come to think about it we don't really need all the fluff. Over the years I have embraced
1.) rediscovering my passion and purpose
2.) Connecting with people in all levels
3.) taking business to the next level
4.) having more time with family
5.) Writing/blogging/brainstorming
Anyway I thank You Eiji I really discovered your words that you used here:
"It’s not about adding things that may clutter your life but instead bring out more from within of the masterpiece you are."

I love our friendship and the value you bring into my life. Thank You too for shining your bight light my friend.
Love Therese
Daryl Whicker

You're so right Therese! Recently I moved my office from downstairs to up stairs and I had a lot of papers and clutter.

If things pile up over time and you don't even know where this stuff is, it's useless.

My wife is very organized and she usually spends about 5 to 10 minutes per day maintaining.

Thank you for sharing!
.-= Daryl Whicker´s last blog ..Child Internet Filter =-.
Therese Miu

Daryl, Having everything in one place help. I also decided to systemize my mails by folders:
1.) To REad
2.) To File
3.) To Do
The most urgent one I would go through right away are my "To do" then go over my "To File" and last but not least is my To read". Anyway it has helped me find more clarity. Also getting rid of anything I don't use or I don't love. I didn't know being an adult you accumulate so much "stuff" that weighs us down. Like they said, "You either own stuff or stuff will own you"..Scary but true! ouch! Looking forward to a de-clutter life for sure....Thanks Daryl for stopping by ;)
Tony Teegarden

Wow-I think you and I are "vibing" on the same level. You'll have to see my post i wrote yesterday and put up today lol. Talk about Good JuJu! Amazing resource here Therese.

I love the "messy" analogy because it expresses how we may be out of alignment with our values, hence it manifests itself in our physical realm.

Thank you for being open and transparent but also for sharing your solutions!
.-= Tony Teegarden´s last blog ..Growing An Intelligent Ego (Is It Possible?) =-.
Therese Miu

Tony, Hi :) I haven't been able to visit yours just yet. I will make sure to visit your new blogpost. I knew that we would synchronize on certain posts. Remember your blogpost about "what your 2010 spin?" I think it was similar to my 2010 goal blogpost haha :) I'm not at all surprised. Looking forward to read it today Tony. Thank You I always appreciate when you shed light on my posts.
Liza

Yes; we carry baggage. Interesting enough, I'm on the opposite side of your spectrum. I've been told I'm too organized; I don't enjoy life enough because I'm caught up with making my environment practical. At this point in time in my life; I've embraced my neat freakness because I realize its helped me managed my home life and career. The moment I realized and toned down my constant need of organization was in a long term relationship. When you live with someone; they are your reflection. He was "messy", I was "organized"; knowing each other created balance in both of our lives....
.-= Liza´s last blog ..What were you praised for as a child? =-.
Therese Miu

Hi Liza, So glad you have embraced yourself as being organize and I'm sure it must have been hard living with someone that's "messy." My thing is that I don't necessarily like dealing with paperwork so now I have forced myself to have proper mantra of "feeling in the joy" when I do things I dislike. Also, just asking for help from hubby, my son, and now assistant for help has made huge difference for me. Sometimes you do have to delegate when doing a task that's not necessarily your strength. Thanks Liza for stopping by ;)
Andre

Another great post + video with very important message Therese! Congratulations for clearing up the mess and setting up a system to keep yourself from creating the mess again :-)! Having grown up in an environment where 'hoarding' and 'collecting' were the norm, I did my fair share of hoarding and collecting too, for many years. So cleaning up messes is a 'biggie' too in my life.

My mentor defines a mess as any discrepancy between what is inside of you and what is outside of you, which is any discrepancies between what you have in your heart (or in your mind's eye) vs what you manifest in the outside world. This discrepancy will result in a situation of disharmony in your life. So the mess can be physical or 'non-physical' such as a misunderstanding with a friend, a money someone still owe you, wanting to read a book every night but it never eventuate because you are too busy, etc.

“Every mess is a lock on the gate that keeps abundance out. Every mess laughs at you. Every mess belittles you. Every mess makes you think you can't accomplish things.” ~Raymond Aaron

When my wife and I started cleaning up the messes in our study room a few months ago, we were utterly amazed on the amount of 'extra' energy we gained! And that was just from cleaning the obvious 'physical' messes! Now in our household we have a rule that if we buy something new, an old one has to go... to keep the energy flowing!

So I completely agree with you, that the messes - whether they are physical mess, emotional, or whatever - actually block your energy flow. It is so true that clearing one area of your life will inevitably improve and strengthen all other areas!

Lots of Love & Gratitude,
Andre

PS: Love the video, Therese! You look so happy and relaxed :-) Oh, and congrats for the move to the new house!
.-= Andre´s last blog ..Are You Arguing With Reality? =-.
Therese Miu

Hi Andre, I was just telling a good friend of mine that in Philippines we 'hoard' and 'collect' too. I know for sure it's because we treasure everything from a pen to a couch...Lack of "stuff" is definitely something that we live with as well.

This powerful statement was a HUGE revelation for me and I want to thank U so much:
My mentor defines a mess as any discrepancy between what is inside of you and what is outside of you, which is any discrepancies between what you have in your heart (or in your mind’s eye) vs what you manifest in the outside world. This discrepancy will result in a situation of disharmony in your life. So the mess can be physical or ‘non-physical’ such as a misunderstanding with a friend, a money someone still owe you, wanting to read a book every night but it never eventuate because you are too busy, etc.

“Every mess is a lock on the gate that keeps abundance out. Every mess laughs at you. Every mess belittles you. Every mess makes you think you can’t accomplish things.” ~Raymond Aaron

WOW!!!! This alone can be on its own complete blogpost ;)
Thank you sooooooooooooooo much for sharing. I'll definitely write this down on my journal. And thanks for mentioning that just cleaning up gives you 'extra' energy. It's the lightness that you allow yourself to feel. Thank You so much for your comment it is always full of VALUE. I love having you visit here ;)
Thanks Andre
Lana - Daring Clarity

Patterns. Wow, that's one of the most mysterious topics for me. Mysterious because it is often so difficult to get rid of them. And you are so right Therese, awareness is the first step to letting them go. Thank you for this video!

I actualy recently threw away half of my house and my wardrobe. I didn't only got rid of everything that I didn't need anymore but also of everything I that I didn't like or didn't feel it was "mine" if you know what I mean. It felt great. And I actually got a new client appearing out of nowhere the next day after I did it. So Feng Shui definitely works:)
Therese Miu

Thanks Lana, I just heard that Wayne Dyer got rid of everything he had including his books to live in "detachment" I think that's one the primary reason for me of going thru spatial detox was to detach with certain things that's not serving me now or my highest purpose. It's exactly what you always mention on your blog which is to bring more clarity and awareness. Good for you Lana on throwing away half of your house and wardrobe. I'm sure you are feeling GREAT and more in harmony with your inner self. Thanks for visiting ;)
city sylvester

Love this one. Cleaning releases tension in your mind, body, spirit and environment. You can't have a clear mind and live inside of a mess. This post came just in time for early spring cleaning :)

-K. City Sylvester
.-= city sylvester´s last blog ..Part 2: Round House Kick Your Personal Brand into Action! =-.
Therese Miu

Yup! Spring cleaning early for me. ;)

Therese Miu