I told my son that our hearts must go on. Our heart, Your heart, and its healing light, is needed right now.
Lighting a candle
Having a heart-to-heart talk with God
Placing a flower upon an altar, statue, or in water.
Writing a letter to the children and then releasing it to heaven by burning the letter.
Playing or singing a meaningful song, and dedicating it to the children.
Making a donation to a children’s charity in their honor.
♥ ♥ I am holding you in my prayers. ♥ ♥
Gabor Mate, MD, author of Hold On to Your Kids, is interviewed by Lisa Reagan, Kindred’s executive editor at his Kids, Culture and Chaos talk in Charlottesville, Virginia, in the spring of 2011. The event was hosted by Belvedere Integrated Healing Arts. Visit Belvedere Integrated Healing Arts. Visit Dr. Mate.
Dr. Dan Siegel is a pioneer in interpersonal biology and offers revolutionary strategies in developing children’s brain. I love these excellent videos about building kindness and resilience in children.
This was posted originally at Dalai Lama Center
Chapter 1: The Opportunity to Build the Circuits of Kindness and Resilience
Sex and relationship coaches, Christin Dilly and Jenny Ferry are fired up and have a common goal: Ignite women to turn on to life. So they created the 30 Day Turn On GalaPalooza. Launching today June 1, I recently caught up with these two turned-on women to learn more about their virtual sensually enriching experience. I think you’ll love what they have to say!
What is the 30 Day Turn On GalaPalooza about?
Is it simple to find life balance? Give yourself a second to think about it …
I would like to know your answer but right now let me give you mine “Yes, it is simple.” Some people might not agree with me but I believe that anyone who is even thinking about balance has all the resources to find it. Sometimes all we need is a roadmap that will take us from one stop to the next one.
The most amazing part about life balance is that it is not static. It is a pleasurable journey … a ride in a red (or insert your favorite color here) convertible along the picturesque Highway 1 … a cruise that takes you from one destination to the next one. Life balance is a state of mind and body that you choose to live in; the state that lets you make choices in life coherently with your values and priorities.
But let’s get back to something a little bit more practical here. There are a few very simple steps that you can take to bring more balance into your life. Granted, our paths in life are completely different and what feels in balance to me might feel completely out of balance to you. It is important to find your own limits and positions where you personally feel comfortable. Here are 4 steps that can guide you in your life balance journey:
It’s now the last week of April. In a blink of an eye the first quarter of the year is now behind us. Yes, Springtime is here. It is another shift to a new season that is MUCH ANTICIPATED to most of us. This had been a long, extended winter even for us southern California residents just in case you are wondering why I wrote “much anticipated” in capital letters. As a resident in Los Angeles area I have been indulged with the all-time perfect, sunny low 80s weather most of my life. The last winter, therefore, was pretty long and just a bit uncomfortable for me.
I grounded myself and hybernated quite a few times this past winter. In that hybernation process of course, many new dreams, visions, ideas and plans were thought about. Now that the Springtime has come it is indeed time to materialize all the new visions and ideas. As the leaves sprout out of the trees and the flowers bloom we can also grow our ways by manifesting visions, ideas and intentions into reality. I often think that we have lots to learn from the beautiful nature in this sense. (more…)
Sometimes it starts as a joke. It might be funny at first.
Then you continue to mention it here and there. Before you know it, you are convinced it is true. As we all know, once we think something is true, everything we see and experience seems to reinforce it. “See? I told you!” Our mind will do as we say. This month I experienced the power of thoughts and words.
The negative ranting started light-heartedly by telling friends that my Spring Break would turn out to be more like my “Spring Broke.” Since the beginning of the month I was experiencing obstacles and unexpected expenses. I had to take my dog to the vet and get x-rays done. My car broke down on me on the freeway and has been in the dealer three times for service because they keep trying to hustle me. USPS lost my smart phone after it was sent back to me from repairs. My insurance changed their prescription policy without notifying me so when I tried to pick up a prescription at the pharmacy, they wanted to charge me full price. It was a Sunday so the insurance company was closed and I couldn’t miss a dose! I got a traffic ticket in the mail with a hefty fine for not making a yellow and running a red.
Eating while multitasking, whether it’s working through lunch or watching TV while eating dinner, often leads us to over eat, which can easily lead to weight gain. On the other hand, eating “mindfully,” savoring every mouthful in the moment, enhances the experience of eating and keeps us aware of how much food we take in.
The Effects of Mindless Eating
You may be surprised to learn that “mindless” eating, or eating without awareness, can have negative health consequences. When our mind is tuned out and distracted during mealtime, the digestive process is slowed down by 30% to 40%. This can contribute to digestive distress, such as gas, bloating and bowel irregularities.
Gas and bloating aside, overeating and obesity are perhaps the most significant health problems caused, at least in part, by mindless eating. The mind-body connection plays a pivotal role in our ability to accurately assess hunger and fullness.
“When the archer misses the mark, he turns and looks for the fault within himself. Failure to hit the bull’s eye is never the fault of the target. To improve your aim – improve yourself.” Gilbert Arland
I have a confession to make.
Lately I haven’t been that nice to my husband. I have been pretty mean. And he shared his feelings with me at 4 in the morning. I have always been very intuitive and follow my inner guidance so I knew I had to stop what I was doing and listen to him. He said, “What’s wrong with you? You keep picking on me.”
It struck a chord inside me. I collided head-on with my own feelings and began to count all the things I have been doing and saying that was causing him unhappiness at this point.
He was right. I have been very mean to him.
My biggest roadblock was me. Relationship requires time, care, and attention. And your number #1 relationship next to the relationship you have with yourself is definitely with your family.
My inner direction was giving me guidance that I was acting pretty *bitchy* and I need to adjust my emotions (no matter how pregnant I felt).
After all wouldn’t you agree that what starts out small becomes big?
As a parent I knew right away how important it is to have a strong relationship with my son. Making time for important things and raising my son with light-hearted parenting is my number #1 priority.
It starts with me.
As adults our days are filled with hard work, stress, and constant nagging obligations. Children are simply bursting with high energy & youthful exuberance that we as parents have lost as we progress on as adults.
It is crucial to make this journey of becoming child-like beings and seeing the world again through our children’s eye. If you are a parent now, the wonderful part is you get to experience this day by day & moment by moment.